True willpower has nothing to do with arriving at emotional resolutions. These are 2 totally different things. There's a basic misinterpreting of what willpower means, and it's frequently confused with doings things emotionally.
Occasionally, in reaction to particular situations or events, we on the spur of the moment want to follow a particular activity, goal or desire, and we enthusiastically and emotionally begin doing something about it. The issue is that after some time the emotions settle down, and we quit what we have began, as we lack enough inner power and strength to carry on.
We frequently arrive at resolutions and promises to do something, act in a specific way, study, seek a job or a partner and so on, and we may even begin acting according to our resolutions, but this goes on only for a little while. We begin with much noise, but terminate in silence. We arrive at resolutions enthusiastically and optimistically, but then we lose our exuberance and stop doing what we promised ourselves to do.
This sort of behavior dampens the power of the will, and makes us lose faith in our power to utilize our willpower. Then we may even begin trusting that willpower is simply a myth, an artificial thing. This is an inaccurate idea, as no real willpower was involved here.
As stated earlier, most of the resolutions that individuals arrive at are triggered by emotions. They arrive at them in reaction to some strong emotion or thought, and seldom because of common sense and sensible, balanced thinking.
The driving powers behind these resolutions are feelings and emotions, but feelings and emotions are not unchanging and not constant. One minute you may feel you are able to subdue the world, and a minute later you might feel weak and clumsy, and everything appears so impossible to do.
A resolution made on the spur of the moment is commonly worthless. The emotion that triggered it may disappear a little while later, and there will be no want left to continue the resolution. A different crucial point to mention is that subconscious habits are mightier than any resolution, and they commonly overpower any decision and want for change.
All this leads individuals to trust that they lack willpower, and to regard it as artificial, as a fantasy, but this isn't so. No willpower has been involved in such resolutions, simply temporary emotions and wants.
True willpower is something absolutely different. It is not acquired in a day, but calls for training over a period of time. You can't expect a physically frail individual to lift heavy weight, but if he trains himself on a regular basis, he will become stronger. It's the same with the fortifying of the power of the will.
True willpower isn't dependent upon feelings, emotions, impermanent enthusiasm or optimism. It's an ability that's formulated over a period of time and may turn into a habit. After developing it, you'll be able to utilize it whenever and wherever needed.
Training of the will likewise originates self-discipline, as both abilities are interrelated. Such training likewise originates concentration, doggedness, assertiveness, self-confidence and the inner strength to arrive at decisions with a balanced, serene mental attitude, and carry them out till their successful fulfillment. You become conscious of a fantastic inner might, which is an inseparable part of you.
Ceaseless training of the power of the will results in a true power, which is always available. It isn't the same as programming the brain to do one specific action, and then, if you need to do something else, you begin again programming the brain for that other action.
True willpower is like a master key, when present, it may be applied to any kind of action or conclusion.
Anybody who's willing and prepared to devote a little time to develop and strengthen his willpower will be extremely rewarded. True training proceeds gradually, and once the inner power becomes stronger, you'll be able to undertake some harder exercises.
How far you'll go in developing this crucial ability depends on how much time, effort and earnestness you're willing to invest.