Really crucial and fundamental precepts you have to know first off if you truly, really, genuinely wish to win back the one you love and save your marriage!
To Start With
Mankind only wants what they don't actually have.
Humans baulk matters which command or confine them.
Humans love themselves to a higher degree than anything else.
In the first place, you have to learn and remember the above really crucial precepts regarding mortal nature. To a certain extent, these precepts apply to everybody, including you and me!
Really crucial things you must not do if you earnestly wish to recover your mate or save your marriage don't show that you're starving for your spouse’s or mate’s presence.
Regardless how much you wish your mate or your spouse to remain by your side, or to be back with you, more starving and hanging on will only make that individual even more tired and fed up with seeing you or making up with you.
Rather, cultivate the mental attitude, habit and conduct such that you don't require that individual to be around for your happiness or pleasure. You truly don't require someone else’s presence or approval to receive happiness and peacefulness.
If you discover how to cultivate this sort of mental attitude and habit, you'll discover that your mate will be the one who will become frightened! They will get frightened of losing you!
Think of this: human beings tend to want what they don't actually have!
If your mate or spouse is seeing somebody other than you, don't stop them from seeing other people! Have a competitor around?
Here’s what you have to do. Don't stop your mate from seeing others. If you sound off, and whine, and nag, I can tell you, the more they'll wish to see the other individual!
How come? They can’t stand your sounding off, and yammering, and nagging! If you wish to stop them from having something that they desire, all the more they'll desire it! Humans tend to desire what they don't actually have.
So, if you attempt to stop them seeing a different individual, all the more they'll wish to be with that individual! To them, it’ll be a great challenge if you attempt to stop them.
If they ever win that individual, they’ll feel triumphant about it! And guess what, you're the one challenging them that they won't have what they desire! Remember, battling to get back the one you love almost guarantees your failure.
So, what you have got to do is to provide them freedom of choice! Let them feel that you're the better individual to be around than your competition because you respect their freedom and their options!
Don't restrict your mate or your spouse. Human beings tend to baulk things or individuals who command or confine them!
Respect your mate’s decisions or wishes to do whatsoever he/she wishes to do during a specific day or during a specific time. If he/she wishes to go out with someone else today, let them alone! If he/she doesn't wish to see you today, let them go!
The more you don't give them your tending, guess what, they’ll want your tending back! They’ll begin wanting it! And they’ll urgently want it back.
The more you provide them attention, the more they’ll feel that you wish to command them, to restrict them, and the result is, they’ll baulk it, they’ll battle back! This will just hurt the relationship between the 2 of you.